Drama; bad music; cat fights; jealousy and diva's; this is what people warned me about when I said I wanted to start an all-girl band 4 years ago.
They were wrong. Here's what it's REALLY like.
Growing up….one might say I was an odd duck.
As an odd duck, I didn’t have many other odd ducks to hang out with.
Little girls were especially cruel. Comments that I was fat, ugly and didn't dress well cut deep. (i wasn't a fat child, these are just the words little girls use to be mean because they are so powerful).
I stopped eating lunch in the cafeteria because I didn't want girls to make fun of the food I ate. Or even SEE me eating.
In Phys Ed. I would refused to run and would only walk. I wasn't very fast and I didn't want the girls to make fun of me.
I hung out exclusively with male friends, became more of a tomboy and became an island of one
I learned to be guarded and suspicious of other girls. Especially beautiful, talented girls.
While I did find other odd ducks to hang out with, they too were solo tomboyish girls. We would hang out in 2's or MAYBE 3's...but I never belonged to a group
When I started the Riveters...I resisted friendships. I wanted to keep in business like. But they broke me open and healed my childhood heart.
I cannot tell you specific moments that changed everything for me. It's more been a slow trust that has built over time as I have learned to love these beautiful and talented women and I've found my place as one of them.
Here are some personal photos of our time..not just as musicians but as friends.